I have always been a into hair ever since I could remember.  I learned to braid at a very early age because I wanted to.  I did hair all through high school because I loved to do hair and it's something I could do to earn money to lighten the load from my parents.  I grew up understanding the difference between kinky, curly, wavy and straight hair from an early age because I learned the difference on how you were treated different based off the texture of your hair. When I was a little girl I wanted straight or wavy hair.  I couldn't accept my hair texture.  It wasn't until I became an adult that I began to see the beauty in my hair and when I learned where it came from I began to love it even more.  I won't get into all of that but I will just say that it's definitely a women's pride and glory.  I love seeing my hair in it's natural state.  Now that I think of it, when I use to relax my hair it was lifeless.  It was dead from having to conform to society's standard of beauty and the way I wanted it to be.  Now my hair have life.  I see it shine from being able to be free and do what it wants.  Kind of like anything that your release from bondage.  I have truly developed a relationship with my hair.  There are days when it wants to be left alone and there are days that it will let me play with it and try new things.  Actually what it really is, is that I found products that really work for my hair.  I am able to manage my natural kinks and curls by using the right products.  My kinks are actually not kinks anymore, my curl pattern is more defined and its now curly and coily. I did cut a lot off my hair FOR NO REASON! Because no more

what I am not going to win the battle with fairy knots.  But you know what? Now I accept them.  It comes with the territory of have natural coily curly hair.  I had some inspiration a long the way to help me take the leap to being natural.  I want to share some inspiring photos with you ladies that have helped me and gave me hope that one day I can have  the length of their hair as well.  Enjoy ladies.


Ladies ladies ladies please stop doing this to yourselves-
traction alopecia

the #1 killer of the black women edges.  Caused by braids that are too tight!

I know you got your hair braided before. However, if   your edges are puffy and swollen you take them out. Or do you? you leave them in only to find out that your edges are gone  after you finally decided to take them out after the damage is done.  Then after that you'd go back and get your hair braided by the same person. The reason being is because you couldn't find anyone else to do it. But.... WHYYY?? It's embarrassing to all our people when other races see us as bald headed, but most of us don't care.  They come out the house all wrong and stuff, smh. Black are known for having ugly hair  because a few simple minded women don't love themselves enough to take care of their whole well being.  They just can't comprehend the meaning of our hair being our crown and glory and that's in the bible!  So those women would rather walk around with someone else hair on  their heads instead of taking care of their own. It's way too often I hear women say they hate THEIR hair and love the weave smdh.  We gotta get it together because not only are we at the bottom of the economy, we are also below SUB standard when it comes to the beauty of our hair.  I'm not saying all black women, while we like to say they don't represent to whole race of black women.... uhh yeah we actually do. According to other races those are the face of black women and they might add that some black women have nice hair, that's not the majority.
I am speaking truth. Some of you will disagree but the majority and other races will agree.  Some of you women make the whole race of black women look bad! We are so worried about how we are treated and we do offend get mistreated, it's all in the media.  But the main solution to this is to look in the mirror (without the weave), love yourself and improve what is natural to you.  The solution  is not getting a weave to hide your flaws. I know I know, it's called "protective styling", but many of you ladies use that word out of context. Protective styles are suppose to be use to protect your hair NOT DESTROY IT.  So what are you protecting? What are you accomplishing when you get these styles that rip out your hair?  Some of you need to ask yourselves that.  Bottom line is to stop the madness, and stop hiding love yourself, build yourself up because whether you want to believe it or not we each present our people.  Love yall.


I have been up and down for years from having babies in between.  I am a mother of six and have two grand babies.  I think my biggest struggle is watching what I eat and feeding the babies what I know they will eat.  I can prepare separate meals for us but who really have time for that.  I like what they eat but they don't like every I have to eat to stay on top of my weight loss plan.  I need to be disciplined when I come to meal preparation.  Especially since i have recently learned that I have high blood pressure. Of course I prepare healthy meals for the babes but they like their cake and cookies too and I LOVE THOSE!  I have decided to try something new to help me get the discipline I need to do this and what I found has been truly working.  I am able to detach myself from the sweets internally with visualization of what I want to look like in the end.  I visualize myself being healthy, sexy, and beautiful with no stress.  I have learned to keep my eyes on the prize instead of living just in the moment when it come to the temptation of sweets.  For me everything is fine.  I can eat healthy for a period and then when I eat a slice of pie it throws all my prior effort out the window or does it? I also found what works is visualizing myself as I would be when I am completely where I want to be.  So inside I am this new person and on the outside I don't see what will discourage me.

I have only one life to live and I don't want to spend the majority of my years trying to watch what I eat; depressed about what I look like and want to do with my diet and so on.  We don't get to choose the body we get but this is the only one we have. We need to take care of it and we CAN improve it.  Besides this body had six beautiful babies and also branched out to two beautiful grand babies.  I want to live to see them grow and multiply.  This is not only for me it is for them as well.  Take care of yourself- live long and strong, be well my sisters.